No One Has Ever Told Me That Before

I met with a staff member the other day and provided some feedback.

The room for improvement sort of feedback.

It was an observation shared by myself and several others at our company.

The staff member responded with…

No one has ever told me that before.

And so we talked for a while to work through the situation.


Open and honest feedback

Throughout my career I have always tried to provide people with open and honest feedback.

I don’t know any other way.

The thing that I find interesting and concerning all at the same time is when people state that they have never been given negative feedback before.

This makes me wonder.

Are they just saying no one has ever told me that before as a defense mechanism?

Or has no other manager or coworker ever shared this concern with them before?

Each answer provides different insights.

And again maybe it’s a combination of both.

Meaning that it is a defense mechanism and that no one has truly ever approach them before.

Doesn’t everyone do it?

Like I said.

I find it interesting and concerning all at the same time.

If we really do live in a world where people don’t provide each other with open and honest feedback.

Honestly trying to help each other to grow to be better people.

What kind of world are we living in?

Sometimes you can’t grow unless you know what to fix.

What needs to be worked on.

Without people providing you open and honest feedback it’s hard to change old habits.

Growth isn’t always easy.

A word of caution.

Most of the time open and honest feedback can be a positive experience.

On occasion it can get a little hairy.

At least for me.

Obviously, it depends on the person's receptiveness to feedback.

Some people can recognize areas where they can improve.

And they appreciate that you’re just trying to help.

Others are a Pandora's box of emotions and insecurities.

So be careful with people's feelings.

And happy people helping.